Styled: A Social Commentary

Styled: A Social Commentary
Styled: A Social Commentary

Did you know that every 62 minutes at least one person dies as a result of an eating disorder?

5% of people diagnosed with anorexia will die. 1 in 5 of those deaths will be suicide. Just under 2% of people diagnosed with bulimia will die. 1 in 10 of bulimics will have a comorbid substance abuse disorder.

Research is inconclusive as to what degree societal expectations really have on the prevalence of eating disorders, but there is no doubt that there are particular pressures put on women to conform to a specific body type.

Styled: A Social Commentary
As a woman who has always been on the curvy side, battling the perception that I needed to be smaller was a constant. In high school, I got into the habit of hunching my shoulders inwards to make my breasts appear smaller and insisted on wearing boot cut or flared jeans to compensate for my wider hips. I was most comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt that hid the discrepancy between my waist and curves. I had one thought constantly running through my mind: take up less space.

It took me years to find any kind of style that I could be comfortable in or reliably find clothes that were cut for someone other than a broadly built woman or an underdeveloped teenager — when I was right in between. Now, as a mom of two, my body has changed even further and I have the added pressure of getting my pre-baby body back. Going clothes shopping can feel like a nightmare. Often I grab a piece I think will look good on, only to be caught off guard by how poorly it fits. Then of course, there’s the models in various styles that they make look amazing, styles that I’m too scared to even try out when I’m 5 inches shorter and 50lbs heavier than your average super model.

Styled: A Social Commentary
Recently, the Trendage company approached me to review their new app Styled. Their mission for this app is for it to be a way for women to see what popular styles would look like on them in real life. They want to contribute to the body positivity campaign by allowing women to feel good about how they look in current trends and styles. You start by taking a selfie, which is then pasted onto an avatar where you select a hairstyle from the presets they have loaded. The third step is to select a body, either one from the presets or by setting your own measurements and selecting your proportions

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After your avatar is created, you’re presented with a slideshow of different outfits. From here you can save your favorites to a section on the app, you can also write/draw on the images, and send them via the app.

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As you swipe, you’re awarded coupon codes to use at actual retailers like Lands End. After a certain time period or number of swipes (I’m not sure which), you’re locked out for the day unless you invite friends to join the app. By swiping in each direction, you get to look at new dresses.

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What I Loved:

1. Getting to see some new styles on my body type was great! I chose to put in my measurements and proportions and felt as though it was a very accurate representation of myself. There were a few cuts of dresses I never would have tried on that I really liked.

2. The promo codes were a brilliant way of getting people involved in the app. Even though I’m not sure if I will use them, it’s a nice perk.

3. The app is easy to use. The only issue I’ve had is with changing my selfie (hence the goofy face in all the pictures 🙄). I do wish there was a tutorial (or maybe I missed one?) that explains what to expect as far as the app goes, but that’s just cause I like everything laid out for me. It isn’t difficult by any means to figure it out.

What I Wish Was Different:

1. The selection of clothes wasn’t what I was expecting. Granted, it’s a start-up and I know there will be changes over time. But I would have loved to see more shirts and pants mixed in with the formal dresses — since most of us won’t be wearing formal dresses regularly.

2. I felt like the promo was a bit misleading. They say that these clothes are from top merchandisers like Nordstrom, which is where I do most of my shopping. But there is no indication of where the clothes come from in the app itself. I would LOVE this app and rave about it everywhere if it allowed me to see what clothes I could buy looked like on me without the dressing room hustle. Let’s be honest, online shopping is a mom’s best friend. Essentially: I was envisioning a virtual dressing room and it’s more fashion Tinder.

3. The proportion of selfie to head is a little bit off. This is probably silly to even include. But it was distracting to me to see this giant face framed by small hair. Give those lock some volume, Trendage!


It’s worth the download to check out. The idea behind the app is fantastic and I love that they’re tackling body positivity in such an easily accessible way. I do believe that an app like this could help teenagers who are at risk for developing eating disorders and change the ways we look at ourselves (2D me is looking good!). I would love to see it be a bit more realistic though. Most women want to look great in the clothes they grab off the hanger when they’re running late — not the formal gowns to wear to an event they will prepare for. Having access to the retailers who sell the clothes they’re promoting and being able to fine tune the selection a bit would go far in making the app more versatile. Thanks for your efforts to contribute to a more woman-friendly society, Trendage! I’m looking forward to seeing where Styled goes.

What do you think? Can apps like these help us battle unrealistic beauty standards? Have you struggled with an eating disorder? Download Styled By Trendage and let me know in the comments!

xoxo, B

5 Reasons Why “Beauty & The Beast” Is The Best Thing Disney Has Ever Done

I should start this with a disclaimer: I love Disney. Like, I don’t just really like the movies and think Disneyland is cool, I LOVE Disney. Chances are, if Disney produces it, I will see it. I am not even sure I can help it. Is there such as thing as Disneyholics Anonymous?

With that said, I was iffy on the live action Beauty & The Beast. I mean, the original is a classic. There are lots of Cinderella stories, but there’s only one Beauty & The Beast and it’s a treasured tale. I didn’t think it was possible to love anything more than the animated version I grew up with and I really wasn’t sure I’d even like it. I love Emma Watson, I really do, but I was nervous about her tackling Belle. I was afraid she’d portray her as too earnest, a little immature. Like… Hermione. But locked in a castle? Like… Hogwarts gone bad? Anyways. The point is, I wasn’t sure if I’d regret seeing it in the theater or not, since I’m pretty much an oh-it’ll-be-at-Redbox-soon movie watching gal.

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So trust me when I say: this movie is the most exquisite masterpiece that Disney has ever created and I {the hesitant theater goer} am planning on going to see it again.. this time in 3D. Here’s the top 5 reasons why. {There are a few spoiler type comments so read at your own discretion}.

1. Belle is the princess every girl needs to look up to. I’m pretty defensive of the Disney princesses. I think they get a misguided bad rep for being shallow and having impossibly perfect hair. They have qualities I’d love my daughter to possess, like courage, and empathy, and impossibly perfect hair. But Emma Watson takes Belle several steps forward. She’s witty, strong, clever, compassionate, intelligent, and brave. This new Belle doesn’t laugh off Gaston’s sexist remarks, she engages and clearly denies him. She doesn’t passively succumb to her fate in the castle, nor does she exhibit the classic signs of Stockholm Syndrome as her animated counterpart, rather she plans an escape out her window, questions the condition of the castle {because come on, talking housewares should freak anyone out}, and when she returns to help the Beast recover, it is out of compassion, not obligation. I could probably write a whole post about Belle herself, but suffice it to say, she’s a character for the ages.

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2. The soundtrack is award worthy. With a fresh take on the classics like Be Our Guest and Tale As Old As Time, and the Beast’s wistful I Dreamed A Dream-esque solo, Evermore, the strong, emotive vocals and passionate score are reminiscent of Phantom and Les Mis. I can’t say enough good things about Emma Watson’s vocal performance, her voice went above musical theater and her technique was excellent — something I am often critical of in musicals. I would have gone again for the soundtrack alone {I already have it added to my music library}.

3. Despite the “gay agenda” rumors, it may be the most innocent love story written. Okay, I LOOKED HARD for the gay scene. Either it was so fleeting and disguised that I missed it or {more likely} Disney did nothing more than portray LeFou like the desperate, longing-for-love buddy that he is. It’s obvious he has some feelings for Gaston, but did we really think it was normal for a man to unrequitedly dote on another man as much as he does without some deeper affection? That bit aside, the romance between Belle and the Beast was beautiful. They have a tolerance that develops into a sweet friendship, but Belle is not swept off her feet by the softening Beast as she is in the original. Rather, when the Beast asks the line “Do you think you could be happy here?” after their dance, she responds after a pause “Can anyone truly be happy if they aren’t free?” {No more Stockholm Syndrome rumors, folks.} When she does confess her love after the epic storming of the castle, she kisses him tenderly on the forehead, and he is not revived by her kiss, but rather by the Enchantress, who comes to take away the curse. This spoke volumes to me as it came across as a phileo love rather than an eros love, a story in which the bitter, twisted Beast is saved not by a woman who loves him as a man, but by simply being loved. Of course, they do get married and live happily ever after, but that moment provides a depth to the story that I didn’t expect. Even the romance between Lumiere and Plumette lacks the sexual overtures from the original.
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4. The gaps in the original are filled in. Rather than retelling the story, Disney did an excellent job of building on what was already there, including some of the original script. A lot of the critical questions {What happened to Belle’s mother? Why did she and her father move to the village? Why was the Beast so cruel and selfish? What was up with that Enchantress anyways? How did a whole castle of people and a prince just disappear?} that we may have about the animated story {which is actually pretty decent for 60 minutes of screentime} are answered. I won’t go into too much detail, but I will say that the expansion only enriches the story and the relationship between the characters.

5. The cast brings a beautiful humanity to their characters. I’m not sure there are words to express the experience of watching iconic actors portray iconic characters in the purest form you can imagine. Belle and Maurice share a real bond, he is a strong and loving father, not the rather silly mad professor he was originally. LeFou isn’t a fool, he’s a gentle soul misguided by his affection for Gaston, who is more than an amusing cocky jerk, he is a cruel man who sugar coats his behavior by being classically charming. The housewares are more than content subservients to the Beast, they were his caretakers and friends, and that is evident in their behavior toward both him and Belle. The finale in which they all return to their human state is truly joyous, and I cried at the reunion of human Mrs. Potts and Chip. Emma Thompson is every mother when she grasps Chip tightly and exclaims “You smell so good!” And the Beast, obviously the hardest character to humanize, clearly develops from a feral, bitter, angry boy into a man who has learned to love, without the naivety his animated other portrays.

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If Disney has shown me anything in this film, it’s that they still know how to craft a timeless, rich classic. If you’re hesitant to see the film because of misguided media frenzy, you are truly missing out. The costumes, the scenery, the sheer magic of the movie make it one you can’t miss on the big screen if you can help it. I am truly impressed and looking forward to a generation of girls with women like Emma Watson and Lily James portraying the princesses they will look up to.

All images owned and copyrighted by Disney. I do not own any rights to the images pictured.

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xoxo, B

New Years Resolutions + A Must Try Apple Pie

2016 was a year full of growing pains. I can’t say I hated it — it brought our sweet, sweet boy, a fun trip to Disneyland, and many wonderful memories with our growing girl. I started school again and became a full time SAHM, both of which came with their own challenges but are undoubtedly blessings overall.

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3 years of Santa photos

I’ve noticed many people throwing shade at New Years Resolutions, among the typical jokes regarding the length these Resolutions last, and I get it. It’s easy to acknowledge the areas in our lives that need change, make well-intentioned plans to change them, use the New Year as our starting line, only to get bogged down in the reality of life and executing any change. I’ve had my share of failed Resolutions and false starts, but it doesn’t change the fact that every January 1st, I write out my list of goals and give them my best shot. For me, it’s simply a ritual that reminds me to be intentional and hopeful about my life, a way to renew my focus and challenge myself to do better.

This year, my goals are:

– to write daily,

– to blog weekly,

– to grow my boutique,

– to maintain a 4.0,

– to be accepted into a graduate program,

– to read one new book a month,

– to keep stuff to a minimum,

– to spend more time with Jesus,

– to prioritize my health and my family’s health,

– and finally, to practice patience, accepting the unpredictable flow of motherhood and life beyond my control.

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2016 highlights

I spent much energy in 2016 on people who did not deserve it, on issues that were not mine to tackle, on emotions that did not bring any joy. If nothing else, I believe that 2017 will be a year in which I choose carefully where to allow my energy to go.


With this in mind, as we closed up the holidays, I made a point to spend less time on social media and more time in the kitchen. Of my many hobbies, cooking and baking have always been among the most therapeutic, but between fibromyalgia and hyperemesis, my time in the kitchen has been much diminished over the last two years. However, my feisty little toddler has developed quite the obsession with apple pie lately, so I made a point to get the ingredients for our favorite pie, which we baked and had for breakfast the following morning. I’ve had a lot of apple pies over the years, and I promise you, nothing compares to this recipe which I got earlier this year from a dear friend. Besides, is there really any other way to transition out of the holidays than by baking a pie? No. I don’t think so.

If you decide to give it a try, a few things to know:

– The crust has quite the temperament. Make sure your coconut oil is solid, refrigerate it before making if necessary. Be sure to use ice cold water to make sure that it will bind properly. Roll out quickly to keep from becoming too brittle, but still be prepared to patch it together as you go. It will still be perfectly flaky. I found that the lattice top worked much better than trying to roll out a second layer.

– You will need to test the apples before removing the pie from the oven. I had to play around with temperatures and cooking times to find the right one for my oven. If not baked long enough, the alcohol will not burn off properly and will leave a bitter filling.

And of course, like every slice of pie, its best served with a scoop of vanilla ice cream, some strong, hot coffee, and a good book!

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Happy New Year, friends! I hope your Resolutions {if you have any} are resolved, and that the year brings you joy and love.

Cheers to 2017!

xoxo, B